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A Video-Therapist’s Thoughts About Video Therapy

August 1, 2020

Matthew Cuddeback LCSW We are all taking the roller coaster ride of the COVID-19 pandemic together, and as we all know, it can be incredibly uncomfortable and awkward when we are trying to connect with others remotely. Working from home means more of us are connecting to the world online and perhaps this is most obvious in our Zoom meetings. It is important to acknowledge and process the inherent discomfort in our lives, for that reason we…

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Why You Have More Friends Than You Think

July 30, 2020

In my work with clients, I often come across issues pertaining to insecurities around friendship. People who have one, two, or a small close circle of friends often wish that they had a broader network or a “group” to find solace in. People who have a broader network often yearn for the closeness that having a “best” friend can provide. Perhaps this is just a case of our humanity coming to light in always wanting what we…

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Giving Too Much of Yourself?

July 28, 2020

 Kaitlin Broderick LCPC    We grow as people by getting outside of ourselves and being able to think of and help others. Some people even say this is a necessary component of finding happiness. However, how do you know when you are giving too much of yourself and neglecting the one person you need to take care of the most (yourself?) The following guidelines can help you in becoming a “successful giver”, someone who thinks of others while…

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Your Therapist’s Therapy Style

July 26, 2020

Matthew Cuddeback LCSW When someone makes a decision to meet with a therapist to work on things, they are struggling with it can be uncomfortable and highly vulnerable. This is why it’s so important to discuss the things that are important to you as a client, and why your therapist should be bringing these topics up early. Like clients, individual therapists do things in a way that are specific to them, making sure your styles are compatible…

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Why We Need to Talk About Shame

July 24, 2020

By Hannah Hopper, LPC Shame is a dirty word. We run from things that cause us shame, and now as I type shame again and again on this page, I question if I should even be writing about this topic. In her book Daring Greatly, Brene Brown (the shame expert of our time) writes, “Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That’s why it loves perfectionists-it’s so easy to keep us quiet. […] Shame hates having words…

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Understanding Your Attachment Style

July 22, 2020

Hannah Hopper, LPC What is attachment style? It’s the emotional bond you have with others in your life, like family members, friends, or a partner. It also impacts how you behave in close relationships, and depending on your attachment style it can make it more difficult to form healthy, long term relationships. There are four attachment styles, and these styles were first researched by Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby. Attachment styles can vary depending on your relationship…

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Twins Are Born in Relationship

July 20, 2020

By Eve Brownstone, LCPC When people ask me, “what’s like to be a twin?”, I usually say it’s like being born with a best friend. As an identical twin and years of working with twins, I’ve learned a few things. Twins may attach and bond first with their twin before their parents. We are born in a relationship. Our twinship sets the bar for future relationships. We will look at how this plays out.  1 in 90…

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Tips for Combatting Burnout

July 18, 2020

Matthew Cuddeback LCSW We all experience burnout at some point in our careers. It is easy to find yourself gradually slipping into this difficult place without even noticing it. However, it is an incredibly important feeling to pay attention to, as the pitfalls of ignoring it can have highly negative consequences, and managing it well can often bring you to an even better place in your career. Below are a few tips to address and combat those…

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The Painful Art of Dealing With Rejection

July 16, 2020

By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Rejection—it’s painful. Whether it’s not being offered a position at a company, not being invited to a friend’s party, or even just having one of your ideas shot down, every “no” feels like a door closed to us. Most people struggle with finding the best way to regroup and recover after any kind of rejection.  A 2003 study done by researchers from Purdue University and the University of California, Los Angeles, found that…

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The Downward Arrow

July 14, 2020

Matthew Cuddeback LCSW There are certain aspects of ourselves that are at the center of many of our beliefs about who we are, in the mental health field we call these Core Beliefs. These beliefs can be healthy or unhealthy, and we can have quite a few. They are also sometimes rather obvious, and others are harder to recognize. There are certain avenues that we use in order to understand them, deconstruct them, and then build them…

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