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4 Ways To Explore A Career Change

March 7, 2022

Steven Losardo, LMFT In a recent article, Carucci, Clark, & Chamorro-Premuzic, 2022 highlight that more than half of all Americans are considering a job change. In part, they desire flexibility and employers that care about their concerns. Some of the population have clarity about what they do or do not want to do next in their careers. But what do you do if you do not have a clue? The good news is while the reasons may…

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5 Ways Keep Your Relationship Strong

March 6, 2022

Steven Losardo, LMFT A recent article notes “studies show that lower feelings of love and less closeness at one time predict a greater likelihood of breaking up (DiDonato, 2021).  DiDonato (2021) adds there are signs you may be on the verge of a break up including emotional detachment, partners being less responsive to good news, and a lack of self-disclosures. The article also highlights negative nonverbal behaviors may deteriorate relationships.  This blog will highlight five promising strategies…

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Self-Sabotage, Part III: How Do I Deal With Uncertainty?

January 21, 2022

By Andrew McNaughton LCSW CADC Part One of this three-part blog on Self-Sabotage described the pattern and characteristics. In Part Two, we took a close look at using the ABCs of REBT to catch and dispute our irrational beliefs with which we cause ourselves anxiety. In Part Three, we will apply this to our second of the two scenarios described in Part One.  SCENARIO #2 I asked her out, she said yes, we went out on a…

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Self-Sabotage, Part II: How Do I Overcome It?

January 20, 2022

By Andrew McNaughton LCSW CADC Part One of this three-part blog on Self-Sabotage described the pattern and characteristics. In Part Two, I will present a rational approach to overcoming this tendency. Let’s go back to the first of our two scenarios. SCENARIO #1  Remember in Scenario #1, I have convinced myself to not ask a woman out on a date because I have decided the rejection would be unbearable and must not happen. When we look to…

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Self-Sabotage, Part I: Why Do I Do It?

January 19, 2022

By Andrew McNaughton LCSW CADC Self-sabotage is as common for people as it is a mystery. Why would anyone do this to themselves? The short answer is that it assures an outcome, even if it is unfavorable, and this spares us of short-term anxiety even if we cause ourselves long-term self-loathing.  This is the pattern of Self-Sabotage: Demanding absolute assurances of comfort, success, or acceptance.  Experiencing discomfort and disappointment in absence of assurances. Catastrophizing the discomfort experienced…

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What’s the Difference Between Sleep and Rest?

January 18, 2022

By: Zana Van Der Smissen Feeling tired is one of the most common things that come up in the therapy space whether or not that means you are physically or emotionally tired, it happens to all of us. So how do we restore and recharge when we feel that way? In this blog, I will be talking through the difference between sleep and rest and how to establish what you might be needing. There are a lot…

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5 Red Flags To Be Aware of in Your Intimate Relationship

January 17, 2022

Steven Losardo, LMFT No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is domineering, manipulative, and cruel. Most of the time, the spouse appears to be alright at first. They may have a few flaws, but their good exceeds their flaws. While you may not be able to see your partner’s true face until after a significant time has gone, there may be subtle red flags early on in the relationship that signal they are…

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How Do I Model a Healthy Body Image?

January 16, 2022

Meg Mulroy, LPC  We are constantly receiving messages about body image from the media, family, and friends. Sometimes, diet and exercise talk seem inevitable and unavoidable. These messages often become internalized and we unknowingly pass them down to our own children, friends, or even clients. It is important to model a healthy and positive body image to others in order to prevent eating disorders. Because these messages are so internalized, it can be challenging to develop and…

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Boundaries are Mean… Right?!

January 15, 2022

Written by Kara Thompson, Licensed Social Worker Boundaries have been quite the hot topic in the mental health and wellness space recently. Maybe you are familiar with Nedra Glover Tawwab, therapist and author of the New York Times bestseller “Set Boundaries, Find Peace.” A prominent voice on social media platforms such as Instagram, Nedra speaks to the realistic and difficult situations that often challenge our boundaries. She uses her expertise in working with couples and individuals to…

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Can Volunteering Strengthen My Mental Health?

January 14, 2022

By: Zana Van Der Smissen As human beings, we are always trying to find activities and hobbies that can be helpful to our mental health. We talk about self-care and how we can include it in our daily routine. Whether it’s taking a bath, making ourselves a homemade meal, or even talking to an old friend on the phone, we want to try to be intentional about how we use our time. One of the forms of…

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