By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Social anxiety is something that many people often suffer with in silence. It’s much more than just feeling shy or being hesitant to speak up in large groups. It’s something that can really impede on your everyday life. Brotheridge (2020) offers ways to develop new habits to help ease and overcome social anxiety. Challenge your negative and anxious thoughts. When feeling anxious, it can often feel like there is nothing you can do…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC In all honesty, I’ve never been a huge fan of New Year’s resolutions or goals. I usually find that they end up becoming too complicated and I try to encompass too many areas of my life. So rather than things that are attainable, I end up with a long list of resolutions that I never seem to keep. Because of this, I have switched to the mindset of setting intentions for the New…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC We can all relate to a situation in which you dread something before it happens. Maybe you spend weeks dreading the results of a recent medical appointment, only to find out that the news is mild and manageable. This is exactly what anticipatory anxiety is—the fear and dread you experience before the event. Although it’s not a standalone mental health diagnosis, anticipatory anxiety can be a symptom of other conditions such as panic…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Decisions, decisions, decisions. Choices, choices, choices. Why is it so hard to make decisions nowadays? And why are specifically millennials struggling with making decisions? I have heard many younger clients I work with discuss how there are literally TOO many choices, and they can’t decide what to do, which makes them feel anxious that they might make the wrong choice. Yes, decision fatigue is a real thing, especially in today’s world where we…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Breakups can be incredibly painful. Although it can seem impossible in the moment, there are some strategies that can help make the process a little easier, and potentially help you to be better prepared to make good, healthy choices when you’re ready to date again. Carmichael (2020) offers some tips to help cope. Don’t grieve alone. Losing a relationship can almost feel like a death of the relationship. If you view it through…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Let’s be honest, being a parent is scary. From abduction and abuse, their child’s friendships, school performance, online threats like bullying, instilling healthy habits, the list goes on and on. It’s natural for parents to worry! However, how much worry is too much worry? In many cases, anxiety paralyzes not just the parent, but also the child, making children fearful and repressing their development. Parental worry can limit children’s opportunities to engage in…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC In a previous blog post, I discussed the topic of trauma bonding, including what it is, how it’s formed, and signs to be aware of. In this blog, we will explore ways to break these unhealthy bonds. But first, let’s have a refresher of what trauma bonding is. Trauma bonding develops out of a repeated cycle of abuse, devaluation, and positive reinforcement (Raypole, 2020). This trauma of abuse can create powerful feelings that…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC We all have that little voice inside of our head. This inner dialogue can either be a powerful motivation tool or a major obstacle to reaching your goals. What does yours usually sound like? If you constantly have negative thoughts like, “I just know I’m going to fail,” or you call yourself hurtful names, your self-talk will drain you of mental strength. Thoughts can be powerful in the sense that they can affect…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC To be honest, I love to laugh. Whether it’s with friends, family, in my relationship, or even just by myself, laughter is something that is very important to me. And I also use laughter quite often in sessions with clients (when appropriate, of course). So how can you use laughter in your own relationships? And is it even beneficial to do so? For dating couples, the use of positive humor (like using it…Read More
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Rejection hurts. And we’ve all experienced it at one point or another. Perhaps you didn’t get the job offer you wanted, were ghosted by a friend or a romantic partner, or weren’t invited to a social event—only to see them posting about it all over social media. It hurts! We feel rejected when we’re not included, accepted, or approved of, and it involves the loss of something we had or wanted. This can…Read More
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