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Rethinking the Resolution

February 19, 2022

Jessica Pontis, LCSW It’s that time of year again, the holidays have crept upon us, and somehow twelve months have flown by with the speed of both the hare and to tortoise simultaneously.  With the change in the new year comes the looming desire to change something about ourselves, the dreaded New Year’s resolution.  We put our hopes into this idea of “new year, new me” but I wonder what we are focusing on.  How many diets…

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What’s the Difference Between Selfishness and Self-Interest?

February 18, 2022

By Andrew McNaughton, LCSW, CADC In my work with individuals, I frequently will hear folks say, “This may sound selfish, but” and far more often than not, they are expressing a desire to prioritize their self-interest, not selfishness. I am always quick to point out to them that identifying and prioritizing their preferences is not an act of selfishness, but rather they are acting in their own self-interest. What’s the difference? My go-to example of selfishness comes…

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How to Navigate Mental Health During Winter

February 17, 2022

Zoe Mittman, LSW Does anyone else feel like it was just summer? I know that I do, and I certainly feel as though we completely skipped over fall. Maybe you’re in the same boat as me, or maybe the summer months felt way too long. However, we are now entering late fall and early winter – the months filled with shorter days, a lack of sunlight, cold weather, and grey skies. During this time, it is common…

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Understanding the Science Behind Self-Worth

February 16, 2022

By: Zana Van Der Smissen Today I will be exploring the concept of self-worth. A concept that comes up in many therapy rooms and can be hard to address at times. There is a perception that perhaps talking about self-worth means that we are being egotistical if we feel like we are telling ourselves that we are “worthy”. While in other instances of lower self-worth, we might believe that people will take pity on us and sympathize…

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How Does Self-Determination Impact Motivation?

February 15, 2022

Jessica Pontis, LCSW Have there ever been times when your life has felt out of control? Where no matter what you do nothing seems to change and you begin to feel powerless over your own circumstances? If the answer to these questions is yes, then it may be worthwhile exploring the topic of self-determination, and how that impacts our ability to motivate ourselves to change.  Self-determination refers to the person’s feelings about the control that they have…

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What are the Stages of Change and Why Are They Important? Part 2

February 14, 2022

Jessica Pontis, LCSW In my previous post about the stages of change, I discussed the different stages of change and how they may present within the context of a person’s experience with smoking.  Having outlined the stages, let’s focus our attention in part two of this discussion on how a clinician can appropriately assess where a client is in the change model and stage-appropriate strategies that could be applied.   Assessing and Assisting in Precontemplation.  When a clinician…

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Understanding the Mind-Body Connection

February 13, 2022

Zoe Mittman, LSW Did you know that there is a connection between your mental health and physical health? This is called the mind-body connection. Your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors impact your physiological functioning and vice versa. For example, have you ever noticed your palms and underarms getting sweaty, your heart beating rapidly, or your cheeks flushing red when you feel anxious or nervous? Has your stomach felt like it is in knots? If so, you are not…

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What Is Decision Fatigue and How Do I Manage It?

February 12, 2022

By: Danielle Bertini, LPC Decisions, decisions, decisions. Choices, choices, choices. Why is it so hard to make decisions nowadays? And why are specifically millennials struggling with making decisions? I have heard many younger clients I work with discuss how there are literally TOO many choices, and they can’t decide what to do, which makes them feel anxious that they might make the wrong choice. Yes, decision fatigue is a real thing, especially in today’s world where we…

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What Is Neuroplasticity in Connection to Trauma Healing?

February 11, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified Therapist  Neuroplasticity is one of the reasons I became a trauma psychotherapist. The brain’s amazing ability to transform and heal itself gives me hope that any trauma, no matter how entrenched in the brain, can be processed, integrated, and healed.  What Is Neuroplasticity? Britannica defines neuroplasticity as the “capacity of neurons and neural networks in the brain to change their connections and behavior in response to new information, sensory stimulation, development,…

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What Is Decision Fatigue?

January 31, 2022

Shannon M. Duffy, MFT, LCPC We make decisions every day whether they appear to be automatic or need a contemplation process to be able to come to a decision. With all the decisions we make they add up and can create and cause fatigue in how we go about making simple to complex decisions. The mental overload of making decisions can feel debilitating and overwhelming which can bring on physical and emotional symptoms from the anxiety and…

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