Even the most loving and healthy relationships take work. In fact, if anyone ever tells you they never disagree with their spouse and everything is perfect all the time, you should take it with a grain of salt. If this is true, it indicates that they aren’t really talking about their issues, and beneath that perfection illusion may lurk some deeper problems that aren’t being addressed. Even though every relationship will have its ups and downs, many couples feel ashamed when they’re having relational problems. They may have the impression that because they love each other, sharing a life together should be easy, but this simply isn’t true.