When Is Discernment Counseling Necessary?
At Symmetry Counseling, we use discernment counseling when a couple is in crisis or when couples counseling doesn’t seem to be enough to do the trick. Where couples counseling may be weekly for 45 minutes to one hour, discernment counseling is more intensive, lasting, at times, up to 1.5 to 2 hours. With a maximum of five counseling sessions, discernment counseling gives each partner perspective about a direction the relationship is going because it will give them a deeper perspective of the relationship and where it is going. Rather than trying to solve marital issues, discernment counseling aims to see if these issues are solvable. It isn’t about casting blame on one party or the other; it’s about seeing both sides of the situation and determining whether or not there is a resolution that works for both of you. While you will go to the counselor together, you will do the lion’s share of the work one-on-one with your counselor. This is because you are coming from different perspectives and both sides need to be heard. If you are leaning towards divorce, the counselor will respect that while still identifying room for restoring the marriage if you both so choose. This will be useful in future relationships, even if this one ends.