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How Does Social Comparison Affect You?

July 11, 2022

By: Bridgette W. Gottwald, LPC, NCC Social comparison — it’s a “pervasive social phenomenon.” Not only do we utilize comparison to judge the standing or ranking of ourselves and others, but we also use it to evaluate current and past outcomes, as well as future prospective outcomes. According to Brene Brown, this means that “significant parts of our lives, including our future, are shaped by comparing ourselves to others.” Comparison can be a difficult word to define…

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How Can I Best Support My Kid(s) With Anxiety & Depression?

April 24, 2022

Zoe Mittman, LSW Covid-19 has impacted mental health on a global level. Studies have found a significant increase in the prevalence of anxiety and depressive symptoms amongst children and youth. Furthermore, a meta-analysis of studies found that anxiety and depression have doubled among this age group, and has increased later into the pandemic. About one in four children/adolescents are experiencing depressive symptoms, and one in five are experiencing anxiety symptoms (Racine et al., 2021). These statistics are…

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How Can I Calm Myself Down? Cognitive Self-Calming Methods

April 20, 2022

Megan Mulroy, LPC We’ve all been in overwhelming situations that feel unbearable and intolerable. There are a variety of things that cause us pain and distress. Maybe you are in a fight with your partner, or maybe you were disciplined at work or school. Maybe something completely out of your control happened like a car accident that made you late. If you ever feel unable to tolerate painful events, urges, and emotions, Marsha Linehan, the creator of…

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How Can I Work on Apologizing?

April 19, 2022

By: Danielle Bertini, LCPC Let’s face it, sometimes apologies can be tough. They require us to put our egos aside and acknowledge that we may have hurt someone we really care about. And what people don’t realize is that understanding how to apologize is something that can be a learned skill. Phillips (2021) offers five tips on how to have more successful apologies.  The Apology Must Restore Self-Respect and Dignity Words or behaviors that make a person…

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How Can I Grieve After a Breakup?

April 17, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  The end of a romantic relationship can be devastating due to all the losses that you are forced to experience all at once. You have lost the relationship, future plans/aspirations, financial/physical/emotional support, and perhaps, even aspects of your own identity. These losses need to be grieved so that you are able to move forward. After a breakup, you might immediately begin grieving, or it might take some time for you to…

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How Can I Calm Myself Down? Physical Self-Calming Methods

April 16, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  When you experience intense anxiety, anger, sadness, or excitement, you might need to calm yourself.  But do you know how? Are you aware of the self-calming methods that might work best for you? Self-calming methods are often considered coping skills and are ways of exercising self-care, yet   different methods work for different people. The trick is to discover which methods best meet your needs and are the most effective in…

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How Can I Calm Myself Down? Cognitive Self-Calming Methods

April 15, 2022

Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, EMDR Certified  When you experience intense anxiety, anger, or sadness, you might need to calm yourself. Do you know how? It’s important that you find self-calming methods that work best for you. There are physical and cognitive methods for self-calming, and they often overlap (for an account of common methods of physical self-calming, see my blog piece titled How Can I Calm Myself Down? Physical Self-Calming Methods). Try these cognitive self-calming methods in…

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Signs of Emotional Neglect in Your Relationship

April 14, 2022
A distraught couple at a coffee shop

Hannah Hopper, LCPC​ Emotional neglect is typically something we think about in association with childhood, but it can also take place in a committed relationship. It’s the absence of enough emotional awareness and response and can be a painful experience at any point in life. Because emotional neglect is invisible, a couple may be experiencing pain in their relationship for many years without fully understanding what’s causing it. In a relationship with emotional neglect, both partners are…

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RAIN: How Can I Utilize Mindfulness During Difficult Times?

April 13, 2022
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By: Bridgette W. Gottwald, LPC, NCC Anxious? Depressed? Worried? Stressed? It happens to the best of us, at least every now and then with all of the many curve balls and unexpected things that life throws at us. Mindfulness exercises allow us to stop what we are doing, take a breath, observe thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and proceed with something that will help us in the present moment. It will result in us tapping into the present…

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The Benefits of Making Space for Anger

April 12, 2022
An angry woman

Mary-Lauren O’Crowley, NCC, LPC I recently found myself instructing a patient who had expressed feelings of anger to utilize relaxation techniques in an effort to mitigate the emotion. The patient responded by telling me that relaxation, including meditation and deep breathing, had proved useless; they still felt angry, overwhelmed, and worked up. This got me thinking — why are we so quick to fix or get rid of anger? And why must the “fix” involve doing the…

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