Danielle Bertini
By: Danielle Bertini, LPC When you spend most of your week with the same people, you’re bound to form bonds with some of them — which is great! It’s nice to have co-workers who support your goals and inspire you. However, the line between colleagues and friends can often blur. Overstepping boundaries with people at work can cause tension, miscommunication, and distractions. Business News Daily Editor (2020) offers tips to properly and professionally manage your friendships in…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC It can be hard expressing needs directly to someone, especially when our wishes aren’t aligned with the other person’s. Asking for what we need is the principle behind assertiveness (Gillihan, 2018). Being assertive often gets confused with being aggressive, as if being assertive means demanding that others give you what you want. However, according to Alberti and Emmons, being assertive actually falls between being passive or being aggressive. It’s a fine line to walk,…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC Self-care is a topic that has received a considerable amount of attention over recent years, especially in fields like health care and human services. However, many people still struggle to not only understand the topic, but to also know how to get enough of it. Dr. King (2019) offers four rules to help you stay on track with self-care. Rule #1: Self-care includes self-talk. A big issue people find with trying to incorporate more…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC There are countless examples in the media, especially related to celebrities, in which a story is posted about something they are doing and make reaching judgments about what is going on. For example, a story was posted about Prince William in which he was “caught” giving the middle finger to onlookers. A journalist wrote, “You can even see a look of smug confidence on his face too.” Oops; that was actually a profile shot.…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC Confidence, especially in the workplace, is not something that everyone is born with. Somehow, in the business world, our confidence either depletes gradually as we make mistakes or grows as we accomplish tasks and excel. Here are 10 tips according to Forbes on how to build your confidence at work: Phase #1: Eliminating Self-doubt: Building self-confidence is a two-phase process. The first phase involves ridding yourself of self-doubt. In the second phase, you work…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC Family conflicts can often hit a spot that other conflicts cannot. They can cause us the most pain, suffering, and distress. Whether its another yelling match with your teenage child, disagreement with your spouse, or longstanding drama with your mother, conflicts that hit close to home are often the most challenging to face because it’s so easy to be held hostage by your own emotions. Dr. Aldo Civico proposes this question: How then, can…
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Danielle Bertini Grief can be a tricky subject to deal with, especially when you are on the other end of it. There can be many intense and painful emotions attached to grief, such as depression, anger, guilt, and deep sadness, and it can be difficult to know what to say or do. You may be afraid of intruding, saying the wrong thing, or making your loved one feel worse at such a difficult time. Or maybe you…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC Just as in romantic relationships, breakups can happen within friendships as well. Why? Similar to romantic relationships, friendships are often an influential part of our lives. Friends are there to listen to us, encourage us, and help us. They can improve happiness, confidence, worth and coping. It is also important to note that many friendships often outlast romantic relationships. All of these factors combined can make it especially difficult to cope with the ending…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC Anger and resentment can often be like on overstuffed suitcase that weighs you down and demands large amounts of energy and attention. When looking at the topics of anger and resentment, it is first important to discuss what the differences are between these two words. Anger is a normal, natural emotion. In fact, in many situations, it’s a healthy and appropriate emotional reaction. Anger takes place in the present, when life isn’t going the…
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Danielle Bertini, LPC Between family, friends, self-help books, and the media, there is no shortage of dating advice. Although some of the advice given from these different sources can be helpful, much of it is either mistaken or based solely on personal experiences and opinions rather than actual research. Siedman (2018) discusses five common dating advice fallacies. When you meet the right person, you’ll know right away. Many people offer this piece of dating advice as an…
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