By Andrew McNaughton LCSW CADC Part One of this three-part blog on Self-Sabotage described the pattern and characteristics. In Part Two, we took a close look at using the ABCs of REBT to catch and dispute our irrational beliefs with which we cause ourselves anxiety. In Part Three, we will apply this to our second of the two scenarios described in Part One. SCENARIO #2 I asked her out, she said yes, we went out on a…Read More
By Andrew McNaughton LCSW CADC Part One of this three-part blog on Self-Sabotage described the pattern and characteristics. In Part Two, I will present a rational approach to overcoming this tendency. Let’s go back to the first of our two scenarios. SCENARIO #1 Remember in Scenario #1, I have convinced myself to not ask a woman out on a date because I have decided the rejection would be unbearable and must not happen. When we look to…Read More
By Andrew McNaughton LCSW CADC Self-sabotage is as common for people as it is a mystery. Why would anyone do this to themselves? The short answer is that it assures an outcome, even if it is unfavorable, and this spares us of short-term anxiety even if we cause ourselves long-term self-loathing. This is the pattern of Self-Sabotage: Demanding absolute assurances of comfort, success, or acceptance. Experiencing discomfort and disappointment in absence of assurances. Catastrophizing the discomfort experienced…Read More
By: Zana Van Der Smissen Feeling tired is one of the most common things that come up in the therapy space whether or not that means you are physically or emotionally tired, it happens to all of us. So how do we restore and recharge when we feel that way? In this blog, I will be talking through the difference between sleep and rest and how to establish what you might be needing. There are a lot…Read More
Steven Losardo, LMFT No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is domineering, manipulative, and cruel. Most of the time, the spouse appears to be alright at first. They may have a few flaws, but their good exceeds their flaws. While you may not be able to see your partner’s true face until after a significant time has gone, there may be subtle red flags early on in the relationship that signal they are…Read More
Meg Mulroy, LPC We are constantly receiving messages about body image from the media, family, and friends. Sometimes, diet and exercise talk seem inevitable and unavoidable. These messages often become internalized and we unknowingly pass them down to our own children, friends, or even clients. It is important to model a healthy and positive body image to others in order to prevent eating disorders. Because these messages are so internalized, it can be challenging to develop and…Read More
Written by Kara Thompson, Licensed Social Worker Boundaries have been quite the hot topic in the mental health and wellness space recently. Maybe you are familiar with Nedra Glover Tawwab, therapist and author of the New York Times bestseller “Set Boundaries, Find Peace.” A prominent voice on social media platforms such as Instagram, Nedra speaks to the realistic and difficult situations that often challenge our boundaries. She uses her expertise in working with couples and individuals to…Read More
By: Zana Van Der Smissen As human beings, we are always trying to find activities and hobbies that can be helpful to our mental health. We talk about self-care and how we can include it in our daily routine. Whether it’s taking a bath, making ourselves a homemade meal, or even talking to an old friend on the phone, we want to try to be intentional about how we use our time. One of the forms of…Read More
Steven Topper LCPC In our modern world, we appear to be connected at all times. Our phones, social media, and the rise of Zoom during the pandemic have all led to the ability to constantly interact with other people. At the same time, many of us have struggled with social isolation during the pandemic, resulting in new ways of reaching out to stay connected. Within all that is a realization that we seem to be working against…Read More
Steven Losardo, LMFT A recent study notes “depression is projected to increase by 2030 to a position of the most significant contributor to illness burden (Irwin & Piber, 2018). Further, the article highlights that only 30% of depressed adults achieve remission (Irwin & Piber, 2018). As a result, The National Academy of Medicine recommends efforts to target depression prevention through development, testing, and new strategies. This blog will highlight five promising strategies you can incorporate now. That…Read More
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