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Did You Know You Can Navigate Your Anxiety?

June 11, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT  You may be feeling a lot of apprehension about returning to work after months of working at home or unemployment while knowing we are still in the pandemic. You may be experiencing anxiety about what comes next for you. Feeling this way is common; anxiety has increased for many people during this time. One research study on Google trends discovered that more people have been searching for “worry” and “anxiety” as well as techniques…

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If Highly Agreeable, Are You Less Likely To Make As Much?

June 6, 2021

 Steven Losardo, AMFT Negotiation of salaries is a tricky endeavor for anyone, but it can be a more complicated process for certain personality types. This dilemma is why understanding your personality characteristics can come in handy when it comes to essential decision-making processes such as asking for a raise. Agreeableness as a personality trait. According to the five-factor model of personality, agreeableness refers to one of five personality traits that we possess in varying degrees. The other…

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Did You Review These Before You Committed to Your Partner?

May 14, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT You began your dating relationship before the Covid-19 restrictions started. Once the pandemic hit, you were able to adjust. There was careful planning for dates and spending time in each other’s homes that included testing and waiting for negative results. Further, before getting intimate, you were “quarantining for two weeks without symptoms — before close, mask-free proximity” (Sarmiento, 2020). You even ran an assessment of each other’s community transmission rates, preexisting conditions or health…

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Did You Know You Should Consider Couples Therapy?

May 13, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT The issues you have with your partner are the daily elephant in the room. You are both aware of them and realize you need some help as they are not going away. While you have heard about couple therapy or couples counseling, you have not taken it under consideration when there is an issue in your relationship. You have listened to the common reasons couples seek therapy, and they do not seem to line…

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Did You Know Limitations Can Liberate?

May 12, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT As we try to adjust to life challenges, it is crucial to maintain both physical and mental health. Today, the drastic increase in remote work requires changing our wellness habits to adapt to our current surroundings. That said, the idea of elevating or even beginning at-home wellness can be easier said than done. Suppose for you this adjustment is not only tricky, but it also seems impossible. Further, you have been here before. A…

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Can Your Anger Be Your Strength?

May 11, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT You may have seen a lot of anger as of late, but did you know it can be a strength? You probably did not, as only about 13 percent of those who admit to serious trouble controlling anger get help (Barnhill, 2015). Anger is a range of frustration to severe fury. The emotion is also understood as a state of readiness and results from a sense of injustice (Clinton & Langberg, 2011). This feeling…

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How To Be Accountable In A Partnership Even When You Are “Right?”

February 10, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT  Schultheis et al. 2010 note that you may divert attention, give excuses, or justify when not being accountable for something you have done or are still doing. In a committed relationship, this often results in arguments or conflicts and, if not addressed, perpetual gridlock (Gottman, 2017).  This blog will review a couple exercises that help highlight places where you have not been accountable or need help developing accountability, if not present. For the blog’s…

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Do You Know How to Navigate Thanksgiving Family Dysfunction?

January 29, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT Suppose you are a part of your family’s annual Thanksgiving Day argument. In the past several years, there was effort, and hope was that things would be different. Unfortunately, despite your efforts, you still find yourself caught in the drama. Even knowing the annual Thanksgiving Day dispute was in existence a good twenty years before you were on the scene does not seem to change this. In the end, your family ends up colluding…

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Can You Cohabitate Successfully While Never Knowing This?

January 26, 2021

Steven Losardo, AMFT The majority of this blog will review cohabitation data in the U.S. The blog will also provide some essential tools to assist couples in areas the data highlights as problematic. Since 2001, family attitudes and values related to unmarried cohabitation have been positive (Reid, 2020). In 2010, Pew survey data noted that 7% of adults ages 30-44 living together were cohabiting. In 2019, Horowitz, Graf, and Livingston provide a Pew data report stating from…

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How Can I Build Deeper Intimacy with My Partner?

November 19, 2020

Steven Losardo, AMFT This blog will highlight some ways for a couple to create intimacy. Additionally, the blog will review how a couple can intentionally create rituals to continue these. The practice gives the couple a meaningful way to connect and something that you can look forward to (Gottman, 2017). Finally,  rituals help the couple keep on track with the new behaviors and not revert to old patterns. The “royal road” to intimacy is emotional availability and…

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